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It is time for a journey. It is time to venture out onto the long-lost roads of fate, away from time as we know it in the everyday world, time to create markers for the time line of our lives. “Remember when?…” we’ll say years from now when we glance at one another, and we’ll both know exactly what that means.
It must be now, a bag packed hastily, a toothbrush, a camera, a swimsuit. You put your sunglasses in the overhead compartment above the front seat, clean out the mileage notebook and parking receipts, the half-finished Dr. Pepper from Burger King that your client left in the car last Saturday. I’ll stack blankets to throw in the back–in case of stars, a warm night, a field. I’ll pack a basket, grapes, burn CDs frantically before you pick me up–Johnny Cash, Cesaria Evora, Bach–then just give up as I hear your old car turning up the street. I scoop up all of them, all the songs I ever heard, and yes, the matching panties, and yes, the perfume, and yes, the wine glasses, and yes, that dress (you never know).
Your tie is gone, and you are wearing cologne, as you never do. Your hair is combed back. I wore the dress, after all, and the hat, and the world is waiting.
Salt of the earth, it enhances the nuances of flavor, like turning the bass a little higher to feel the rhythm, like cold raindrops on a chilly morning. You, im Voraus, verlorner Geliebter, in my bed.
The night was chilly, not cold, and the oil expensive. A comforter would do then, and you, the luxury of you wrapped around me, then beside me with your hand low on my back, my hair tangled, sheets tangled, legs tangled, then drawn in to roll into a sleepy embrace. Objects appeared one by one: the lamp on the nightstand, the vase on top of the cabinet, books—first shapes, then words themselves—on the shelves, clothes of vague colors on the floor. The light stayed low. Early, too early, we said, and fell back into a sigh and sleep, attempted, never recovered though with senses awakened by that early morning fog, dew, finally yielding to steady rain and a tight pull in my belly as I felt your hot breath soft on my neck.
I long for this, long for the love that holds this warmth, this vulnerable privacy. I long for coffee in bathrobes, company, bathrobes dropped at the shower’s steam promise of hot water shared, hair wet, kisses more urgent as the wanting becomes violent, and that mist again against the dark morning. You, flowing, ebbing, in the rhythm of a quiet day, you rolling in, out, never ceasing, always returning, always departing, but differently. You, your treasures, scents, sweat, traces of you, presented in lingering moments ever nearer. You, treasures purloined, perfume, notes in pockets remaining as your last finger lets go of mine. You run, late, giving in to the day, the door slamming shut behind you. I should, too, but no, not yet. I stay longer, soak in the warmth of a moment. You, whoever you are, wherever you are, wherever you go, whenever you come home again, you, I long for you.
Yesterday was Bloomsday. I remember my first attempt at reading Ulysses, carrying the book like a schoolgirl, close, and trying to hold onto the wildly accumulating words long enough for my brain to grasp some meaning in them. It was a long process for me, one that took place over years, not months. So, I recognized the words with sadness as Garrison Keillor read that passage yesterday on NPR’s Writer’s Almanac. He read, just before 9am, my coffee in the cup holder, while I was on my way to work.
No, no: these words are not for busy mornings. The inappropriateness is not so much that they are wonderful, gushing words, but they are the last of them in that novel. Their images, so full and inviting, made me long yesterday. For what? Damn. I had just fixed my face, just got ready. Damn bleary eyes. I hate these endings, knowing that words you read for the first time will never come back again in the same way, knowing that the next book will not be as satisfying, and with a long, difficult book, I hate leaving it after all that. Well…
It is also that time of year, when school ends with a flurry–no, a blizzard–of activity, with too much to do, far too much to do. And everyone else is rushing, too, just to make it to that end.
I always hate the end, hate the goodbyes, hate the disruption, the worries of how to manage time, manage children, how I can work and make things work. I hate not seeing the people who make life work for us, with us, during the rest of the year. I miss them. I miss the familiarity of the year, the schedule, the routine, and the surprises tucked beneath it all. It abruptly stops.
I wonder what this end will mean this year. It has been a year full of change already, and letting go of yet more feels so unwieldy. I wonder what will happen. I wonder…
And yet, this year, I want change.
It became all too apparent during the last week that life as I know it now is not the life I want to lead. I worked hard, which usually feels good. But this time, work seemed more of an escape than an accomplishment; too much to do felt like an excuse. Maybe days were too long, too little time spent with the things and the people that mean the most to me. I came out of it all feeling that the sacrifice was not a means to a better end for all of us. Money in the bank, eventually, perhaps, but at what cost?
The work is good, in theory–in practice, too, for the most part. I believe in it, and wish to do more in my role there, to make a difference. Maybe we all do. We all tend to wonder in frustrating moments where that fulfilling life is. It has long been my stoic family’s way to chastise dreamchasers… and yet, the absence of meaning has nearly destroyed me at times. So, when my coworker suggested that I may need to cut back hours this summer, or figure out ways to work from home more, I was surprised. There is always too much to do in the office. But then there is life, too.
Hearing those words from Ulysses, too, I realize that the sadness came from the overflowing sensuality that I long for, if only just a little. I long not for all of it, not for “the queer little streets and the pink and blue and yellow houses and the rose gardens and the jessamine and geraniums and cactuses and Gibraltar”, but I do crave the yes.
Oh, yes, this year has felt like such a year of no. I find myself clinging to endings, but now letting go, releasing the pain and frustrations, at least just a bit. Yes, I maybe do want pink and blue and yellow houses, and gardens, and yes, maybe I do want even more than I let myself wish for. Oh yes! I do crave the yes.
The men in suits were out again today. I see them often in my neighborhood, as I pass several funeral homes any way I turn to head out into the world from where I live. This morning was a sunny, cool morning, and the men today were attired in a professional black: older men who own proper suits for such occasions, men who are accustomed to facing the end of life.
A morbid curiosity leads me into the lives that will be remembered on mornings when the hearse is parked out front. I cannot help but wonder what happened, and why. The cars and the people who gather lead me to assumptions, some ordinary, some tragic. Some days I can barely make it through the streets as cars hunt for parking, fire engines or police cars line the streets, people walk sadly to that one place. Tragic. Sometimes, there are few cars, a few people out front, some laughing, some smoking, some simply quiet. Ordinary.
Morning suits are for funerals. The evening suits are of a different sort. Visitation brings the stragglers, the people who appear because they know they should, the ones who would have, should have made it to the hospital earlier, the young people dressed in the best they can muster, reluctantly inching closer to the door to pay respects that they barely know how to pay. But they do.
I remember one funeral, years ago, sitting in the front in a mint green dress with a boyfriend nearly as young as I was. I smiled as seemed necessary, waited, made the uncomfortable friends feel that they had done the thing I most needed them to do—and they had—which was just to be there, however they could manage. I thought on that day how short a life can be, how precious the few moments we have in this world are, and how fragile our abilities remain with us. It was nearly twenty-three years ago now, a death on Flag Day, a visitation on Father’s Day, a funeral on a quiet day when the world began again in a new way for me, with a strange sort of beauty that comes only when you know that someone you love has at last been given the peace that life never offered.
“That night we moved closer to the border, and clear across the prairie, at the very edge of the horizon. We could make out the gas fires of the refinery at Missoula, while to the south we could see the lights of Cheyenne, a city bigger and grander than I’d ever seen.
I felt all kind of things looking at the lights of Cheyenne, but most important, I made up my mind to never again tag around with a hell-bent type, no matter how in love with him I was” (Sissy Spacek as Holly, in the movie Badlands, 1973).
I recently had a moment of fond reminiscence of dangerous days, the thrill and passion of grasping tight while the wind and the world hit me head-on. Then I woke up.
There are all sorts of reasons that taking off in pursuit of adventure may seem like a fine thing to do, but in the end, most of them seem to involve running away from, rather than to something. The vague idea of adventure was a dream I inherited, a place I guarded in the back of my mind as an option whenever I was faced with too much unhappiness in too short a time.
Until I was in my late 20s, I never did much more than ponder that option. A few times, I felt myself drawn to the flame, flittering perilously close to entanglements that would break my heart, and did—but not irretrievably so. I jumped a few times, but felt that elastic pull back, bungeeing me back into a predictable existence to idle on the lookout for my own truth.
I wonder sometimes if it is a part of growing up, or if it is a part of growing up unhappy that leads a person find truth in sublimation. Sometimes I find that truth in words, my own words, a world on a page, or in a heartbeat, a smile, a carefully placed step and a song, a moment of pure grace. This is a sort of joy.
Try as I might, though, I never found joy on the back of a motorcycle, holding on tight while someone else drove through the unknown vistas and back roads. I did venture once, untethered at last, straddled the back seat of an adventure and never went home again. But where I ended up after that, I expected to stay.
I guess I should have known this was not a ride meant for settling, for bonding, or for discovering ourselves. The never-ending voyages tugged, threatening roots that grew ever deeper. “Why leave? Why not stay and see the flowers, the fruits, this life we created?” I wondered. Garden with me.
“Come alongside me,” he said, and I followed, while I still could. The urge to flee returned tirelessly, a malignant tumor, seeking still more—but what?—some indefinable thing that could ravage me in the process. One day, farther from joy that I ever imagined, I stayed behind; he left. But he could come home, to walk among it, to reclaim this life, this beautiful, imperfect life that had grown, with the weeds and thorns to disparage. He could come home, if only to pick the best fruits from among them, to look at love and believe it would always wait.
I wonder, what hidden parts of ourselves only find expression in actions that seem to defy what life passes to us, even what we choose? I wonder what makes us feel more alive when we speed through space, feeling the vibrations through our skin, into our minds, testing the very limits of our physical life, and abandoning in those sublime moments all that has meaning here on Earth.
And then… what makes us feel justified to return, perhaps unscathed, perhaps damaged irreparably, always hoping to be cared for and loved by the ones we left behind…. or at least, not forgotten?
I wonder what the seeker seeks, if he even knows, or is it the search that he lives for, the never-ending journey? What comfort does the road bring? Perhaps it is the moving skylines, the exchangeable faces, the well-polished security of the new and unblemished. Perhaps the road brings an illusion of perfection, and the safety of never truly being known.
“Heavenly shades of night are falling,” indeed.
I am shivering, holding onto a cup of hot tea on my back step, spoiled after the summer like conditions that woke up the trees this week.
It is quiet here, a different house without movement or voices, but nice for one evening.
Just before I took this picture, the neighborhood was cast in dramatic shadows, as the sun peeked out from behind clouds that have now disappeared. The sun has gone now, too, and this light is all that remains of the day. The leaves of the Japanese maple opened just a little today, promising more.
More. More spring, more warmth, more quiet, more voices, more love, more “rendezvous beneath the blue,” more you, whoever you are, wherever you are, more.
A couple of weeks ago, I was at Trader Joe’s to replenish our supply of milk, cereal, and honey-roasted peanuts, when I saw them peeking out between the bouquets of holly and pine branches, white roses, ivy, mistletoe, and poinsettias: peonies!—pale pink, tightly closed, and remarkably out of season.
I looked at the price, nine dollars, picked out the nicest bunch, and put them in my basket. It was a little splurge, just for me, something to brighten my home, which would be quiet for several days. I looked again at the bouquet. A few of the outer leaves were already brown and curled on the edges. The leaves were pretty tired looking.
I put the flowers back, and walked across the aisle to grab a box of Joe’s Os.
The New Year is upon us, and as we are all wont to do as December ends, I am pondering my existence and what I can do to make it—me—better. Many articles are published on this subject every year about this time, right next to the lists of famous people who have died, and the countdowns of top songs.
It must also be a big time for self-help book sales. You know those books you see—especially if you are a woman—that tell you about taking care of yourself and doing nice things just for you, because you are so overwhelmed by taking care of everyone else and really deserve to have a week in a spa, a personal shopper and a nice meal cooked by someone else?… Oprah often reminds us that self-pampering is nice, and one particular bit of advice I have tried taking from her from time to time is to stop waiting for a man to send me flowers and just buy them myself.
Well, after years of buying my own flowers, I have to say that this advice is crap.
Now, that is not the only reason that I put back the peonies at Trader Joe’s. In fact, I do love peonies, and I’ve grown them when I’ve had gardens. When I’m lucky, they bloom around my birthday, and then, I do buy them for myself. The screen in my bedroom has them all over, off-white, pink, even yellow, and most beautiful, deep red ones, signs of prosperity and good luck, love, healing. Some fairly convincing fake peonies sit stylishly in a long rectangular vase on the floor in my hall. Open my front door. There, at the bottom of the stairs—those are peonies, too. Sure, I would love to have real ones, and this time of year—what a treat that would be! But not like this.
Rarity does not equal beauty. And just because the supply goes down doesn’t mean my demand goes up. It just means that I wait for the right time, unless they are something truly special. Now, it may be true that these particular flowers would have released their perfume and charm when they opened, but it just didn’t seem likely. In fact, what I saw when I looked at them just made me sad: supermarket flowers to feed the commercial interests that mark the season. Not even a Chinese empress could force these flowers to bloom in winter. Why should I?
To every thing there is a season…
And then, there is the other factor… the part about Oprah’s questionable advice.
I do believe that waiting around for someone else to make your life for you is a really bad idea. Live, live for yourself, just live! Yes, I do believe that. I do, and I fill it with the things that mean a lot to me, and I do want to be better, and do more. But buying my own peonies?
Really, all those times I went ahead and filled my vases with beautiful flowers I bought for myself, I really did wish that I had someone to thank them for, someone, someone who knew me well enough to know the thing about the peonies, someone who cared enough to waste the money on something beautiful that is already dying, something fleeting, something frivolous, something totally and utterly impractical… for absolutely no reason at all. Buying peonies for myself just makes me wish I had not been the one to buy them, and wishing that does not make me feel pampered.
So, a garden I may grow, but I will no longer buy my own flowers. That is my resolution for this year. Telling myself that the flowers themselves are all I ever wanted… that just cannot be all there is to hope for. But dreams are not so bad, and I will not stop dreaming. That is my other resolution.
Ah, it is the end of this year, the beginning of new days, new dreams, new songs. To all of you, both the dreamers and you more practical and level-headed sorts, I wish you all the beautiful gifts of the year that follows.
Last Thursday, my hair still wet from dodging the heavy snow as I rushed—late—into the courthouse, I was stopped still in a stairwell as my lawyer whispered back to me.
“You agree to it? You can live with that!?” she grabbed my arm. She had worked in this system for so many years, knew the world of developmental disabilities, of mental health, said that she thought I was doing the right thing. I trusted her. She would have said no before I ever got there if she had thought it was a bad idea—she knew me that well. My lawyer is not one to mince words to save my feelings, but after all this time I trusted her. I knew that she had always wanted what was right. More than that, I trusted myself, and I let go.
I was still nodding, barely breathing, then pacing back and forth, looking up at the high ceilings, the light coming in the windows near the top. My lawyer walked away from me, quickly across the hall, saying “Okay.” I had just agreed to give away my rights to make medical and educational decisions for one child, to have them for another. It was going to be okay. The choice that felt like a surrender to me, felt right. It would benefit everyone else. In other words, it was the only choice I could make.
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be” (Lao Tzu).
Who am I?
For years, I have been the mom of my son, not of the older one, and not of my daughters, but of my son with developmental disabilities. Oh sure, I am a mom to all four of the kids. I do the typical mom things, read stories, help with homework, shuttle kids around, volunteer at the school when I can. Sometimes more. I try. I have done what I could for all of them, but nothing compared to what I invested of myself in the life and times of my ten year old. For ten years, it is his mom who I have been.
It is a laudable job. Mother of child with special needs. Advocate (not any old parent, but one who stands up for her kid against the System). I found generous people—much more generous than I had known before. I found patience. I found purpose. It is a job I never wanted, though. I was an affable, word worshiping Europhile with grand visions of saving the world in other ways, increasing global understanding through languages and literature. My visions of motherhood involved exposing the kids at a young age to tapenade while on sabbatical in Provence, hiring theater-major babysitters who taught my kids Shakespearean scenes that I would make into productions for the neighborhood.
Well, I do still speak French, and I do still tutor from time to time. My daughters do love to go out on my balcony and yell, “Romeo, Romeo, please take out the trash” (where did they get that???). But my kids’ performances tend more toward High School Musical than Hamlet, and my ten year old? Well, he always loved the “Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow…” soliloquy from Macbeth. The popping sounds made him laugh—not really the effect they were supposed to have. But then, my ten year old never learned to talk.
I remember my suspicions when he was tiny. He was a good baby, smiled early, hardly ever cried, and he was beautiful. Not just cute, but angelic. Next to my older son, the one who tried my patience sorely (even as I tried not to laugh), the one who would later be diagnosed with bipolar disorder, he seemed a much-needed gift.
Still, something in his cry, when he did cry, broke my heart a little every time I heard it. I picked him up, feeling that he needed more of me than I had, and I had not even noticed until it was too late that he needed me at all. By the time my little boy actually called for me, it was as if he was not only fed up with waiting, but in pain. Looking back now, I think he was. I think it never occurred to him to do something to get my attention, only to cry in actual, physical pain. In the busy days with a toddler, I sometimes forgot that the baby had not asked to eat for hours. He didn’t reach for things, couldn’t pick up his head. He did not try to push up his head if I put him on his tummy—he just lay there until I saved him. At four months he still did not roll over. He was content to sit in his bouncy seat for hours, cooing at me enthusiastically when I sat beside him, but otherwise apparently happy alone. Everyone told me how lucky I was to have such an easygoing fellow, who could be passed quite easily from woman to woman at any given community function. I agreed, I was lucky, but it just didn’t feel quite right.
I have come to hate the “What to Expect…” books. They make it sound as though everything is always going to be all right, and line up lists of normal milestones that end up feeling like points of comparison, or competition. I guess there has to be some way to assuage your everyday parental anxiety, but I came to see these books as cruel reminders, flip descriptions of what everyone else’s child was doing. I came to resent my own baby books. Growing up, I had always loved to look back at what I did at certain ages, filled out meticulously by my mom. I filled out pages for my first baby, for a while, until the measures for him just didn’t seem right. I completely stopped putting the milestones next to the pictures of duckies when my second son never even met the milestones, months after they were promised to happen. Late bloomer. No, no. No! I was sure it was just a fluke. My own mom had the proof that I was toilet trained by age two. I don’t even remember when my kids were out of diapers. Well, my ten year old still is not. I know, I should know these details. I did keep track of so many things, know some key facts about my children’s development.
Here are a few.
For my older son: Put keys in car ignition properly – age 18 months (after retrieving my missing keys—from his toy tractor)… I would never believe it if I hadn’t been there.
For my younger son: Walked – age 4½ years (after first time riding a horse)
For my older daughter: Crossed the street by herself – age 3 (to visit the dairy cows and pick blackberries)… chased, by me
For my younger daughter: Said first sentence, “I’m the baby.” – age 18 months (and got passed around to every kindergarten mother because she was so cute).
I can also tell you the dates of a few key events for my ten year old. The first EEG, EKG, EMG, the first CAT scan, MRI. Expensive equipment. Mostly nice doctors. But first came the crushing blow. It was on my mom’s birthday. I got home late in the Vermont snow, a lump still in my throat. My son was ten months old, and I had asked the question at six months (“No, he’s healthy—just a late bloomer”), then at nine months (“Maybe you should come back in a month.”). It was a month later. My son had still never rolled over on his own.
“Nothing has changed. He’ll still be able to live at home,” the pediatrician told me before he walked out of the room.
It was only years later that I realized that these were hardly sensitive words. I wanted to know the future, and it was not in the “what to expect” category. He said that nothing had changed. Everything had changed. He said my son could still live at home. I was nowhere near the point of thinking that any of my children would live away from me before they grew up, and this doctor had the nerve to put that thought in my head. How could he give me news like that to share with my mom on her birthday? Saying it to her only made it seem real, and I didn’t even know what he meant by “delayed.” Wasn’t that the same thing he said before? Late bloomer? The next day, I hit the toy stores in search of developmental toys, mirrors. I made the appointments, neurologist, geneticist, had the blood drawn. I discovered the internet. I changed.
It was another year and a half before someone said the word “autism.” I’m still not sure how it fits, but it certainly got everyone’s attention better than “developmental delay.” I signed up for a year of classes–the University of Vermont’s Rural Autism Project probably saved my life. I drove to Montpelier every Wednesday night through every sort of weather, winding through the dark roads late at night, looking for answers, finding myself in the process. I was his mom. I dragged the kids–first just the boys, then another girl, then another–to Burlington every Friday for several years to see the “right” occupational therapist before I found a great one near us. I made friends, connections, went to conferences, read, looked for the cure. “Let Me Hear Your Voice” convinced me that the behavioral program the doctor had recommended in the beginning was the only thing that would save him. With it, he would talk. I wrote letters to important people. I complained. And a year later, when we still did not have those behavioral services, I called a more important meeting, wrote to more important people. My son got his program, and he even said a few words, for a while. Everyone knew my son. He was my cause.
Things continued like this for years, so many things, so many efforts, and still they do. But one day, near the end of a year in a fellowship program that was nearly all inspired by this one child, I realized that I could no longer lift him. I found this out because I could not walk after I tried to do it too many times. Apparently, a lot of other people realized that they could not lift him, either, because it was getting harder and harder to find people to help me. The ones who thought they could were getting hurt, pulled muscles, bite marks, scratches, enough. I missed the people who helped me, helped us. If I think of the amazing people I met, and the experiences I never would have had, I realize how lucky I was… also how selfish. I found my voice in giving it to a boy who does not have one, and now I find myself wondering what to say.
I let my son go physically several months ago–he now lives with his dad–a tough choice in itself (as I wrote here)–though I know his dad loves him. I didn’t want to separate the kids, but what more could I do? It should lead to a better life for him, a better life for his brother, who also needs me to fight for him, a better life for his sisters, who just need me period. A better life for me.
…I think. But what is that life now? I wonder, as I realized the day after that court date, at my son’s annual school review, that I would not be the one signing the individual educational plan. Oh, yes, what I gained in the exchange is precious, necessary perhaps. It lessens the struggle. There really was no choice. But giving up on one son to save another? Oh, yes. My older son needs this now. My older son has bipolar disorder, and walks a perilous labyrinth filled with the dead ends of denial and the land mines of stigma. He can learn to walk that path safely, though–with some help. But now I know I cannot walk it for him. His sisters need me. I need me. But this all sounds so righteous. Really, the best I can hope is that it is right. I make choices for some, for many things, but I have no control over how things turn out. I never did. And really, what did I have then? What do I have now?
“When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need” (Lao Tzu).
I have just been kissed.
My daughter is awake too late. If I had investigated, I probably would have found the book beneath her pillow (she knows by now it’s better to hide them). She tells me that there are monsters under her bed, and I hold her and tell her that it’s impossible because I sprayed monster repellant in key areas and at all entrances to the house while they were gone. She asks if I remembered the chimney. Yes, even the fireplace below, just in case. She asks me where the can is. I used it all. She asks me where I bought it.
“It’s time to sleep, honey,” I say. She kisses my cheek, then takes her hand and touches the place she kissed, and waves it all over me.
“Sprinkles,” she says.
“Huh?”
“If you touch the place you kiss, you can sprinkle the kisses, so you know I love you all over.”
She made this up herself, she tells me when I ask her, and I swell with that warm pride you know when your kid does something special.
After all, the sprinkles work.
It’s the end of July. Hard to believe. I slept very little last night, thinking, and took a drive this afternoon so I could try not to. A tree on the north side of town had given in to the tinges of red and yellow, and the air had that feeling of letting go.
Right now, at 8:30, it is already dark. I hear my kids upstairs, reluctant to go to bed, but soon, they’ll give in to sleep, as well. It is still warm outside. The sun blazed through the day, leaving bronzed, happy campers for me. The air conditioning is still running a little. But summer is getting tired.
Crow’s feet and laugh lines mark my face, remembering joy, remembering more sweet than the joy itself, I do believe. It is bittersweet, thinking of spring’s promise, dreams, wonders. I love this, love this time when summer is quiet. The fireworks have dwindled, the swimsuits faded, the glories exhausted. It is time for August.
When I was younger, I used to swim laps. I still like to. I rode my bike every night to the pool, an hour before it closed at 8:00. In early summer, I always hit all sorts of younger kids dodging through the lap lane. By August, they were mostly gone. The pool was mostly empty, in fact, save another addicted swimmer or two and a lifeguard. Back and forth, I used to swim that hour before they blew the whistle. Back and forth, I hit the rhythm that took me to another world. Back and forth, summer slipped by. The whistle blew, and I used to pull off my goggles to see the orange sun low in the west. I got on my bike and rode the same streets home, through the football field parking lot, to the street that jogged before Chestnut, to Selma, then Florence, Edgar Road and up the hill to home. It was almost dark by then, and I used to have ice cream sometimes, read, write, dream. Nothing could bother me there, in the water-induced peace I had found, looking out the window at the stars, listening to the radio, and figuring out who I might become someday.
Tomorrow is August, the beginning of the end of summer. The best time. The time we remember our real lives, left hanging through the never-ending days of June and July. We remember, but we do not retrieve those lives completely… not quite yet. Farmers markets. The people we love. Practices, but no games yet. Coming home. Plans for the future, but the date book is hardly filled. Another dive off the deck, more cherished because it is nearly the last.
Tomorrow is August. Savor it.
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Now playing: Bebel Gilberto – August Day Song
via FoxyTunes
